the only temper tantrum I remember throwing, iwas about 3 yrs old. I had been told I would get to go to the ice cream parlor. I expected to go to the ice cream parlor and I wanted to go. When I was told no, I was sad and angry and I ley the world know it. (Part of what made it so memorable was kickimg my teenage cousin in the boob and her really hurting and being mad- I felt bad but also felt she deserved it for being part of the conspiracy that toyed with me getting “fresh” ice cream!)
The next time I remember such disappointment was mom saying she would take me to the softball feilds and show me the difference between baseball and softball…or at least play baseball with me like my step dad for merely 2 yrs had done. He was great at playing with me just to teach me all the sports he was into; I missed that adult kid bonding time. I reminded my mom over and over again how she had promised to take me to the feilds and play with me. She never did.
So I learned that dispite what people say, you should never expect them to come through; never expect ANYTHING because it was a losing bet and only fools take losing bets. Don’t hurt yourself by being bitter and untrusting-that is just asking for unhappiness. Be open, unassuming, and happy for whatever life brings you.
Not such an easy task is it? You meet that knew guy and suddenly you can see 20 yrs into the future. You hear about an opening at work and hopes -expectations- begin to brew could you get that promotion? Make more money? Get better things? If not for these expectatiins you are happy, and when the expectations are not met, life seems unfair. Fair is balance and balance does not always mean getting what you expecr.