July 9, 23
Sure I get my pick of cock when I want it… when I want to be aggressive enough to not just initiate, but take them and give them directions… It’s beginning to feel like men can’t even find a balance between their power and their vulnerability… I am trained to be vulnerable but also step up and fix things if no one else is capable… I like taking care of people and I feel like I can take good care of myself when I maintain boundaries on my time and energy (I CANNOT SAVE THE WORLD!) this week I am just whining that I want to feel taken care of… all these wonderful people who love me and appreciate me so much and these cute sweet lonely guys who feel so much love and validation from our interactions and I walk away feeling like a kind and appreciated person, I get validation, gratification… I get a lot out of these relationships but yet I am not comforted, I do not feel safe to let down my guard and relax, cry and feel love’s safety and protection…. I like being objectified, I appreciate my sexuality and mostly how others appreciate me… but yet not all people treat objects with gratitude and respect… not that I equate myself to a machine but if I correlate how people take their cars, dishwashers, washing machine and dryer all for granted, instant gratification, practically takes care of itself! it makes perfect sense that human interaction takes a similar outlook….I give the machine what it needs to do it’s job and it is just taking up space the rest of the time… I am tired of just taking up space, holding a place for everyone but myself… and not feeling held… and this whole bullshit of guys teasing and dropping hints that they want to be fucked but expect me to do the work, the seducing and not getting taken… I like being “taken” it doesn’t always have to be accompanied by a toxic ego does it?? And if you want to be taken then lift me up! Boost my ego enough to have the confidence to feel safe letting myself lose control… or take control, as the case may be… but let’s balance the power Switch, please?
Seems kind of pathetic to want or need something so bad that the mere thought or fantasy makes me want to crumple and sob…sometimes gratitude is joyful uplifting praise … what is it when you are grateful but can’t celebrate because in the moment the hunger is too blinding?
July 26. Appreciation for the acknowledgment that I can choose my partners, if I don’t want to comfort someone sexually it doesn’t matter what my reasoning or feelings about it are, I can say no. Likewise, when I am feeling appreciated….(interrupted…)
(January 2024) …I can reciprocate without shame…. Or at least I think I can…there is a part of me that very much wants “Daddy” to tell me I am such a good girl taking care of others as he takes care of me… no shame, no fear of punishment….Can I do this for myself? I can but physical connection, “when two or more come together in Divinity”, that is where my deeper satisfaction and healing are found.
(February) seems appropriate to add to this draft – I am trying to clear drafts out and tie up some of the loose ends in my head🫣. The cycles continue: two weeks of no shame and some level of satisfaction but the deepest healings come from being alone, music, art, masturbation. Spirit moves within me, water touches my skin. With the touch of desire from a lover, I wish I were in warm water all day and night.
(7th) Virgo is not wind beneath my wings. I don’t yet understand what we get from our relationship, why he wants to take up space in my life or why I tolerate him taking up space (sometimes emotionally exhausting me…guess I do that to myself also) I just know he gets preachy about me always bringing up my ex-husband and it just feels well sorry, babe, but you’re the one reminding me of why I had to get out! Why spend the night together and barely touch? And sleep in separate rooms? I try to pet, it’s too much, he rubs his foot against mine I rub back he pulls away because “I tickle”, so I tickle again, does he want to play games? No, he gets grumpy… so don’t touch. He tells me he loves me and I am fine, but I am NOT fine. I am constantly trying to be what he needs while I feel inadequate, unsexy, withered and wasted…like I’m gaslighting myself, brainwashing myself that this feeling is okay, that in this relationship I am free, I can get my “dickings” fool around and have a heart(?) to come home to… he talks about going to molly parties and getting our freaks on… I dread the idea of revealing myself to people I may see in town… as much as I want to uncage myself… and as much as I love him it feels more like we are helping each other heal because we are still so influenced by the recovery from our previous toxic relationships but not the sustainable passion, and compliments of energy to satiate and empower me…but what do I know…